A Guide For Men

This is where we thought we would put “How to Take Care of Her When She Gets Home,” but let’s face it. The guys want to know…


When can we have sex?

The answer to that question can vary depending on the situation, including what surgery or surgeries are done. Usually, it is something like six weeks, but may be longer, depending on the woman’s comfort.  Another major factor affecting this answer is whether or not she had other procedures done along with lifting her pelvic organs, especially the Anterior and/or Posterior Colporrhaphy (Anterior and/or Posterior Repair). You will have to ask her doctor this question to know for sure.

Will sex be more gratifying for her and for me?

Improved sexual intercourse is not guaranteed, but is often reported by patients and partners. It only makes sense that if the vagina is held firmly back inside the pelvis instead of falling out, vaginal intercourse would be easier and more gratifying for all parties involved.

How to Care for Her When She Comes Home.

When the patient comes home, she will need some help. The most important thing is for her to not lift heavy items. The action of lifting heavy items will cause an increase in pressure in her abdomen (belly), which will then cause an increase in force downward on her vagina, thus increasing the risk of the repair failing. So, someone else should do all the household chores she usually does, for at least six weeks. Any chores that require lifting more than ten pounds should be done by someone else for at least six weeks.

When can she go back to work?

That depends on the type of work she does and what type of procedure she had. If she sits at a desk, she may be able to return to work in as little as two weeks. If she does heavy construction, it could be as long as ten weeks.  You would need to discuss this with your doctor.